Queer

Death

Club

queer & trans folks in the NC Triangle making space for death, dying, and grief

queer magic for queer community.

QDC is weaving a queer deathcare network so we can care for each other in life and in death.

queer hands on queer bodies.

Befriending Death

Death is essential.

Being in right relationship with the Earth and our more-than-human kin begins with honoring our place in the cycle. Like all things we will die. Humans are no exception.

Death helps us access the fullness of what it means to be alive. Grief helps us remember what it means to love and be loved.

QDC makes space for death, dying, and grief through connection, ritual, and resource sharing.

Grief Embodying

We grieve with our bodies and we experience death with our bodies. We need embodied ritual and art to help us move emotions and be present with death, dying, and grief.
When we drop into ritual we can connect with our moment of death, the aliveness of being in a body, and build a relationship with the ones who came before us and live on inside us and all around us.
QDC invites folx to experience ritual as a way to connect with our own deaths and touch into the rivers of grief flowing inside of us. By breaking open we can come closer to becoming whole.

Earth Honoring

The Earth is our home. The Earth nourishes us for our entire lives. In death, by giving ourselves to the ground, we can begin to repair the rupture between humankind and our more-than-human kin. We are not separate from nature. Death is a reminder of this truth.
May we remember how to speak to the soil. May we remember how to sing to the trees. May we remember how to hold our dead. May we remember how to grieve. May our tears and our bodies be offerings to the water and soil of this Earth.

Corpse Tending

The way we care for corpses in some ways mirrors how we care for the Earth. The body is sacred and a dead body is deserving of reverence, tenderness, and love.
Anything can be made sacred with intention, attention, and emotion.
For example, washing a dead body can go from being a dissociated task to a ritual that brings comfort and closure to a loved one. Death is a portal in time. How can we adorn this portal? What rituals can we do to make death beautiful? How can we experience more love and connection by caring for our Dead?